In healing from emotional abuse we are going to look at this from a few different angles and while doing so we will also address
- What is emotional abuse?
- What is mental abuse?
- Emotional abuse signs,
- emotional abuse in relationships,
- emotional abuse help,
- help for emotional abusers
verb (used with object)1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse: to abuse one’s authority.2. to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way: to abuse a horse; to abuse one’s eyesight.3. to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile;malign.4. to commit sexual assault upon.5. Obsolete . to deceive or mislead.noun6. wrong or improper use; misuse: the abuse of privileges.7. harshly or coarsely insulting language: The officer heaped abuse on his men.8. bad or improper treatment; maltreatment: The child was subjected to cruel abuse.9. a corrupt or improper practice or custom: the abuses of a totalitarian regime.10. rape or sexual assault.
Abuse is the improper usage or treatment for a bad purpose, often to unfairly or improperly gain benefit. Abuse can come in many forms, such as: physical or verbal maltreatment, injury, sexual assault, violation, rape, unjust practices; wrongful practice or custom; offense; crime, or otherwise verbal aggression.
What is emotional abuse?
According to Wikipedia…
Psychological abuse, also referred to as emotional abuse or mental abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. Such abuse is often associated with situations of power imbalance, such as abusive relationships, bullying, child abuse and in the workplace
As of 1996, there were “no consensus views about the definition of emotional abuse”. As such, clinicians and researchers have offered sometimes divergent definitions of emotional abuse. However, the widely used Conflict Tactics Scale measures roughly twenty distinct acts of “psychological aggression” in three different categories:
- Verbal aggression (e.g., “Your partner has said something to upset/annoy you”);
- Dominant behaviours (e.g., “Your partner has tried to prevent you from seeing/speaking to your family”);
- Jealous behaviors (e.g., “Your partner has accused you of maintaining other parallel relations”).
The U.S. Department of Justice defines emotionally abusive traits as including causing fear by intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner’s family or friends, destruction of pets and property, forcing isolation from family, friends, or school or work
Before we go much further it might be useful to recognize some of the inherent problems in not having a definitive definition of emotional abuse. The reason being is because no the powers that be have not definitively acknowledged that an emotion is a combination of a mental meaning applied to a sensation in the body, which can be labeled a “feeling”.
Structure of an emotion:
And emotion is a body sensation aka a physical feeling that the individual ADDS a mental meaning too. So when we are dealing with emotional abuse there are always two aspects involved. The body sensation (feeling) and the meaning that is applied to that body sensation.
What is mental abuse?
Well as we just read above most professionals equate mental and psychological abuse as emotional abuse. Now why would they do that because based on the structure of an emotion meaning is added to the feeling sensation in the body and it is our body where we feel things so the only way to determine if something is mental or psychological abuse is how it feels emotionally to the individual.
Emotional abuse signs
One of the topics we listed at the beginning of this article was emotional abuse in relationships. From the aspect that everything is relationships these signs of emotional abuse all basically come down to constant situations where you feel less than or subornation, or fearful, even if the relationship is with yourself.
Often when we think about relationships we think if things like lovers, spouses, children, friends, work, etc. and it is useful to remember you have a relationship with yourself. How you talk to yourself and how you treat yourself. So remember that as we talk a little about emotional abuse signs.
- Do you have constant fear?
- Do you feel like you have to be very careful, i.e. walk on eggshells?
- Do you feel belittled?
- Do you feel controlled?
How about always feeling…
Emotional abuse in relationships
Helpguide.org shows this chart
So whether you are an adult or a child and you constantly show any of the above signs of emotional abuse feel free to contact us.
Emotional abuse help
Physical abuse help is different than emotional abuse help. However physical abuse ALWAYS has emotional abuse as a component.
There are tools and techniques to not only stop the abuse but to experience healing from emotional abuse.
- One-on-one coaching
- Training programs designed to provide healing from emotional abuse
- Training classes on how to exercise emotional control
- Training programs designed to remove the helplessness, self-loathing and desperation.
As an example one of our best ones is The Way To Happiness, check it out.
Help for emotional abusers
Because of the way many people look at abuse they see an abuser and the abused and in a lot of people’s mind that’s a villain and a victim. When the reality is it is the coin of victimhood. The abuser has already been in the role of receiver and has moved into the role of giver and yet the are both victims of the abuse of their emotions. To understand how that can be go here to learn about the 3 things you can do with emotions.
is about understanding the structure of how emotions work and then applying the tools to make the shifts so that no one ever gets in the situation of abusing self or others and to do that only takes practicing some drills to get the skills.